Bethany McIlrath

First and Second: Perspective On What Matters Most (Matthew 22:36-40)

It Is(n’t) What It Is

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The phrase has been floating around for years. It came to my attention as friends of mine from different circles and walks of life spoke the words. I noticed the phrase on television and the radio. Then I saw it on decorative signs in a couple of stores.

So I tried it on for awhile.

What I found was that “it is what it is” can be a euphemism or a platitude that keeps us from recognizing what “it” isn’t. There is nothing wrong with accepting reality –except that so often our sense of reality isn’t the same as the Lord’s.

The words “it is what it is” bear the sort of powerful finality and magnitude as God’s Words: I AM who I AM. They suggest to us that our circumstance are sovereign and all that is to be done in response is to obey. If only we responded to the Lord’s declaration of sovereignty with the obedience we give to this phrase.

When we speak that much loved phrase, we are often actually saying:

  • So deal with it
  • Suck it up
  • Forget changing anything
  • Not my responsibility
  • Too much work to alter this reality
  • There’s nothing to be done about this
  • If it is, that must be God’s will and I’m stuck

I struggle to find support for these attitudes -as enticing as they can be- in Scripture. And believe me, as one whose biggest pet-peeve is complaining about something you are unwilling to change, these words are tempting.

This phrase appears to relieve us of the need to stress out, to fight what we can’t beat, and to fret over what we don’t have control over. But so do these (much more powerful) words:

  1. IT IS…All The Lord’s
The earth is the LORD's, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it” Psalm 24:1
  1. IT IS…Up to the Lord
Blessed be the name of God forever and ever, to whom belong wisdom and might. He changes times and seasons; he removes kings and sets up kings; he gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding; he reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what is in the darkness, and the light dwells with him.” –Daniel 2:20-22
  1. IT IS…In the Care of the Lord
He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.” –Colossians 1:27
  1. IT IS…Present Before the Lord
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” –Philippians 4:6

…Not only is “it,” but so are you and I.

As we read these statements, we are reminded that what “it is” is His.

When we begin the phrase “it is,” there is more power in remembering that things can change.

That there is one in charge.

That He cares to hear our prayers and concerns.

That the war is won.

That when we need to live through difficult things, we need not live resigned- “it” can be well with our soul because He is I AM.

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19 responses to “It Is(n’t) What It Is”

  1. Jeanne Takenaka Avatar

    Such good words here! I’m guilty of using that phrase, but I never thought about what it’s really saying about my belief regarding the situation. Thank you for the reminder that “it” is God’s, and so am I. He can change what He wishes, or He can change me, or He can choose not to. And that’s okay.
    I’m your RaRaLinkup neighbor. 🙂

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Nice to meet you Jeanne! Amen. I love that you highlight that He can change “it” or “us”…planning to write on that soon, actually : ) Blessings to you!

  2. Linda Stoll Avatar

    Hey Bethany … I just loved how you took this well worn mantra, turned it upside down and inside out, and brought us back to the I AM.

    Powerful, powerful!

    ;-}

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Oh Linda, the Lord did it in me before I wrote it! Thank you and blessings : )

  3. Stacey Thureen Avatar

    Good point Bethany. I’m stopping by from women with intention Wednesdays. Blessings

  4. Donna Reidland Avatar

    Bethany, I love this! I have been guilty, too, but I’ll never be able to use that phrase flippantly again! Thanks for reminding us of “THE TRUTH.” Blessings!

    1. mbethany Avatar

      An honor, Donna. Love when the Lord convicts us at the same time : ) Blessings!

  5. Candace Avatar

    Thank you for this, Bethany! I have found myself saying that little phrase, “It is what it is” constantly lately. I’m definitely going to try to swap it for #3. “IT IS…In the Care of the Lord.” This is so much more encouraging and enlightening. A wonderful new mindset :)!

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thank you Candace! Definitely things I need to swap out too -thankful for His grace as we move to His perspective!!

  6. SarahEFrazer Avatar

    I love this post! Thank you so much for sharing. I loved: It is….of the Lord. YES!
    -Sarah (www.sarahefrazer.com)

  7. Tai East Avatar

    Wonderful post, Bethany! This is the best message I’ve read today thus far. I absolutely love it. Your words speak of such a LIFE-giving and life-changing truth. Thank you so much for sharing this, beautiful friend! GOD bless you, Love! 🙂

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thank you, Tai!! His Words give life : )

      1. Tai East Avatar

        You are most welcome, Love!

  8. Ifeoma Samuel Avatar
    Ifeoma Samuel

    Thank you for the enlightenment!
    How Powerful our words are even in small matters.
    Hugs and Blessings to you.

  9. Jenny @ Women With Intention Avatar

    Featuring you tomorrow! 🙂 Thanks for linking at Women With Intention Wednesdays! I loved this. My Grandma’s favorite saying is, “it is what it is” and I’ve always despised that phrase! I love your take on this!

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Wow Jenny! Thank you so much! Hope I didn’t pick on your Grandma too much : P I’ve been guilty of it -but the Lord has better things for us!

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  11. inspiredbyjune Avatar

    A good word, Bethany! My husband says this all the time, and it’s always bothered me for the same reasons you mention here. My response? “It is what it is, but it will become what you make it.” Not the perfect response maybe, but my point is that attitude {an attitude of gratitude, an eternal perspective, etc} makes all the difference in the world to “what is!” I popped over from Women With Intention today, glad to have found you! Have a blessed week!

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thank you! Blessed by your encouragement -I like your point : ) It is all about attitude!

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