Bethany McIlrath

First and Second: Perspective On What Matters Most (Matthew 22:36-40)

Untangled in Love

I never thought I’d be one for mushy stuff. Anyone who’s heard my commentary during chick flicks knows I’m not a romantic.

But there’s this guy.

The one I moved seats to be near the first day of class. The one whose shenanigans had my head and finger wagging from the start. The one who asked me to date him after I spent hours telling him every reason not to love me. The one who led me to my Savior.

His eyes were fixed on Christ even as he took my hand in his. I thank the Lord he has little regard for any other sight.

During more than 6 years of knowing each other now, I’ve witnessed a faith-skill of his I pray the Lord helps me hone as my own.

He’s an expert disentangler.

Ironically, this only applies spiritually. When it comes to being entangled physically, he’s got a knack for being wound up in cords, having limbs stuck in furniture, nearly strangling himself with ties, and being unable to remove himself from places he climbs into (AKA…dryers.) Some evidence:

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Spiritually, though, my husband is quick and nimble to:

“throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.” –Hebrews 12:1

What I’ve noticed most in his way of staying free and ready to obey the Lord is an attention to who He is serving. 2 Timothy 2:26 warns of being enticed into entanglement in the enemy’s snare. The verse says our enemy captures us for the purpose of having us do his will.

We are never entangled in sin for the purpose of serving God.

So, when we are entangled, we’re serving the will of the enemy.  It might be through self-serving or through people-pleasing. We may be money-driven or fear-abiding. Whatever the case, when we’re entangled, we’re not fixed on the purposes of Christ.

This is one of the ways my husband’s “black and white” thinking helps.

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He isn’t easily entangled because His eyes are fixed on Christ intently. He notices when he is looking at someone else. He notices when what he’s doing isn’t serving the Lord.

And when he notices, he turns from the dark to the light. He shifts his eyes to Christ. He throws off whatever is bidding him to pay attention to or serve anything else. Whatever it is, it’s not worth missing out on beholding the Lord.

I’m blessed when he helps with my writing because I know he won’t fail to point out words that hinder instead of help the gospel. As I analyze, assess, and plan in life I am grateful to have by my side someone with foresight and discretion regarding the Lord’s will.

Among the most precious aspects of our marriage is my husband’s habit of getting my attention to direct me to Our Lord -who has his attention.

He hates to be entangled, and he hates to see me tied in knots too.

Praying this Valentine’s Day you and your loved ones can help each other disentangle to fix your eyes on the One who matters most.

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  1. Michele Morin Avatar

    We are both blessed with husbands who help us to maintain perspective in this following life! So great to learn more of your story, Bethany.

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thankful you are blessed this way too, Michele 🙂

  2. Lesley Avatar

    I’m not usually one for mushy stuff either but this is lovely! We all need people who encourage us to keep our eyes fixed on Jesus.

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thanks Lesley! Yes, we do!

  3. Gayl Avatar

    “He isn’t easily entangled because His eyes are fixed on Christ intently. ” If we could always remember to keep our eyes on Christ, we eliminate a lot of worry. Thanks for sharing and I pray that we and our loved ones may always help each other to remember to look to Jesus.

    Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #MomentsofHope this week.

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Praying that with you, Gayl : )

  4. Nicole Kauffman Avatar
    Nicole Kauffman

    I love that our spouses can help to push us towards Christ even in our difficult moments!

  5. The Pastor's Snarky Wife Avatar

    I hate mushy stuff too. This is an incredibly beautiful love letter, though!

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Aw, thanks! I am tremendously blessed by my husband’s example. Thank the Lord, I need it!

  6. Lois Flowers Avatar

    You are blessed to have a husband like this, Bethany, but of course, you already know that! I love the pictures and the personal story. Hope the two of you have a sweet Valentine’s Day! 🙂

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thanking the Lord for wonderful husbands : ) Hope you two had a great one as well, thanks!

  7. nicki schroeder Avatar

    I love that you have a husband who is pointing you toward Christ Bethany! My husband does this for me daily and he is such a treasure. You have a rare gift in your hubs and his love for you and for Jesus, treasure that and celebrate it! Rejoice that someone loves you so much that he helps redirect you toward what matters! What a great testimony to your man on Valentines week. LOVE! xoxo

    1. mbethany Avatar

      Thanks Nicki, I love that your husband points you to Christ too : ) Thanking the Lord He gives us this kind of marriage testimony!

  8. Nicki @ beingfoundinhim Avatar

    This connects with me and my husband…who led me to faith in Christ in the first place. I enjoy the way you honor your husband with this post – thanks for sharing!

    1. mbethany Avatar

      What a treasure, right! Love that the Lord can use our husbands this way : ) Praising Him that you and your husband both know the Lord too!

  9. leslie976 Avatar

    Hebrews 12:1-2 is my favorite passage. I really like your thoughtful insights to this verse. It gives me more food for thought! Thank you for sharing!

  10. Lisa notes... Avatar

    My husband is a black and white thinker as well. I don’t always appreciate it, but there are definitely wonderful qualities about it too! Thanks for sharing how important it is when it comes to sticking with God’s truths. I definitely benefit from that. Thanks, Bethany.

    1. mbethany Avatar

      I hear you, Lisa. I don’t always appreciate my husband’s black and white thinking either- but the Lord uses that quality so much! Thankful with you!

  11. Tiffany Parry Avatar

    My husband led me to Christ too – that was over 22 years ago! So grateful for a man’s ability to put everything in it’s right compartment and not get it all mixed up. So glad to be your neighbor at #heartencouragementthursday

    1. Lisa Appelo Avatar

      I didn’t know this Tiffany! That’s outstanding. <3

    2. mbethany Avatar

      Amen! Praising the Lord for your testimony Tiffany : )

  12. Heather Hart Avatar

    I absolutely love this. How blessed you are. My husband and I both knew Jesus before we met, but we have also both grown in our faith so much since then.

    1. mbethany Avatar

      It’s such a gift to be a in believing marriage where we can grow up together in Christ : )

  13. RobbyeFaye Avatar

    What a sweet tribute to a Godly husband.
    Blessings~

  14. Lisa Appelo Avatar

    Bethany,

    I love that your husband led you to Christ! What a forever connection you two have. Many, many blessings to you both. Happy to be visiting from #heart encouragement.

  15. Wanda W (@TheWateredSoul) Avatar

    Such a beautiful story and tribute to your love for your husband,

  16. Donna Reidland Avatar

    What a great love story! Sometimes the mushy ones only last as long as “those feelings” are there. We all know that life has it’s ups and downs and we can’t live in the clouds all the time. I’m not even sure we should want to. But love that’s built on the Rock is the kind that lasts! Thanks for sharing with all of us. Blessings!

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